Hi! This one's a break from the usual important life updates. Just some thoughts I've had swimming around in our head for a while that I want to share. Was showing a game to a friend when we saw a scene involving characters' feelings about their heritage. It of course had me wondering about where we came from. So here's some backstory and feelings about our family tree. (CW: discussions of family and forced bonds, emotional abuse, the usual) Extended family Sunny and I have had a complicated relationship with our extended family for as long as we can remember, and it's been pointed out several times to me by friends how unusual it is. There's several moving parts to why we felt and feel the way we do, that I want to put down in writing. Ever since Sunny was little, there's been this kind of... bubble. Sunny was heavily incentivized to close themself off and only associate with their immediate birth family. Their friendships were looked down on by their birth parents, and they were disa

Health update A few days ago, on Monday the 23rd, we had another surgery. After a quick recount, it appears to be our 11th overall. This surgery regarded our sinuses, something that's troubled both of us since Sunny was a toddler and first received those life-changing nose injuries. Basically, this operation claims to open up our sinuses, all 3 (you have two maxillary and one frontal sinus). This is meant to help breathe better and drain sinuses better, two things we desperately need. I mentioned in our last post that recovery from this would be rough. It is. I felt like utter shit after the surgery was done, and for the entire day afterward. Until further notice, we have to breathe through our mouth again, just like poor Sunny had to do for the majority of her life before the split. If you've never had to breathe through only your mouth 24/7 cause of medical conditions, you're lucky. We can at least somewhat use technology again, but for the first two days after the operation, our hea